How To Save My Marriage

Image by Lorenia via FlickrAre you tired from the endless arguments and frustration? Do you want to restore the romance and
love that you had when you first got married?

The good news is that most marriages can be saved if you can commit to the task of saving your marriage. While it's true that around 30% of first marriages end up in divorce it doesn't have to be your story.

When a marriage is in serious trouble often the last resort is marriage counselling but for many people they would prefer to solve the problems before things go that far.

Don't expect that saving your marriage is something that will happen instantly or even quickly, it took time for the problems to develop and with anything worthwhile you need to take the appropriate amount of time to carefully fix the problems and save the relationship.

Here are just a few simple suggestions to start you on the journey to get you in the right frame of mind to get you in the best position to save your marriage:

1. First thing is to be calm and think things through if you already haven't started. Don't let your emotions get in the way and ruin your chances of making the right decisions about what you need to do.

2. Avoid making some of the most common mistakes that most people make in your situation. These aren't things that will be easy but it's important that you try and follow them to give yourself the best chance to save your marriage. Things like:

• Acting defensive. No matter how difficult it is, don't react to whatever your spouse says or does during this stage. Remember, that they may be very angry or upset with you at the moment for whatever reason and you need to give them some leeway.
•  Don't resort to begging or pleading with your spouse. This will come across as you being desperate and this is a big turn-off and not the thing to do when trying to turn the love back on.
• Don't play the blame game and make everything either yours or your spouse's fault for the problems in the relationship. Remember, it takes two to have a relationship and both sides are responsible for how it is managed.
• Don't try to change the way they feel at the moment, your spouse has a right to feel the way they do.
•  Just give them some space to work through their feelings, they will eventually settle down.
• Don't promise things like you'll change or make things better if they give you another chance. Again this falls into the category of begging.

If you are doing any of these things then it would be best to stop doing them.

Just remember to give your spouse some space and time alone to allow them to work through their feelings and to think about what they want to do. This will also give you some time to think about what you want from your marriage and how you are going to repair the damage.

Here's to your success,

Mamry Lane.

Winning Back My Wife - The First Step

Image via WikipediaWhen you break up with someone you love, you go through a mixture of painful emotions.  You feel sad, depressed, angry, hurt and you miss them.  What should I do to win back my wife? becomes a question you constantly ask yourself.

There are many websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses designed to answer the question, how do I win back my wife? But common sense can really make a difference when there's a relationship break up.  And common courtesy can go long way toward healing your relationship.

If you're pre-occupied with your lost relationship, wondering what you should do to winning back my wife? then follow these simple steps to start with that will give you the best possible chance of getting back together with your wife.

1. Don't play games.
This is very important, but unfortunately many people resort to this during breakups because it gives them a sense of power.  If you can make the other person think that you don't care, or you care more than you really do, you're manipulating them and that may make you feel good in the short term, but it won't last very long and it won't help you get your wife back.

Eventually you'll realize that lying and tricking the other person won't help your chances of winning back your wife. If you think anything good can be achieved by these tactics then you're only fooling yourself. It may be one of the reasons why your wife left in the first place.

Some men play games by pretending to be seeing another woman in the hope of making their ex wife jealous. While it's a tactic that may work in a few instances, otherwise it could backfire big time and cause your break up to become permanent. Your wife may thing that you don't really care about them since you seem to have moved on. You won't have any way of predicting the outcome of this ploy until it's too late. And you really don't want to do anything to risk you goal of winning back your wife?

2. Don't be mean.
This holds true for any relationship, but sometimes the anger around a break up makes us act more viciously than we normally might.  Even if you're hurt, and angry inside, the fact that you want to know, What should I do to win my wife back? shows that you're ready to forgive her for leaving you.  You need to forgive your wife for the hurt you're feeling before you can move forward. Let go of those painful feelings and put your thoughts to what you need to do so that you can win her back.

Now, think about how you've been acting.  If you were your wife, would you look forward to spending time with you or talking to you?  Or would you dread each time?  Do you get angry or shout at her? Even if you feel like raising all kinds of arguments, simply don't. Work very hard at controlling your anger and hurt, and try to be a person she can miss.

3. What should I do to win back my wife?
Be on your best behaviour and make your wife remember what drew her to you in the first place. She'll remember your good points and will miss them.  This way you'll have a better chance of being able to win her back.

These are just the beginning steps in winning back your wife. They are the initial steps that this person followed when they lost the love of their life. If you are wanting to get your wife back but have no idea of how to make it happen then here is a guy, his name is  T'Dub Jackson, and he has been working in this field for some time now and has developed a down to earth step by step method
called "The Magic Of Making Up"".

His method of showing you how to get back your ex really works and he has a lot of testimonials to back it up.  Just watch this video as T'Dub Jackson explains the first step....