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Friday, October 12, 2012

I Want to Save My Marriage - Reestablish the thrilling excitment

By Jay Pee


As with any intimate relationship, complacency can occur. You become familiar, happy with one another and before you know it, the flames you once felt is diminishing. This is a common fact of marital life. I see you nodding your head and thinking, "yep, that's us. I want to save my marriage before it gets dull and lost in responsibility". Good for you! You've come to the right place. Let's see what you should do to rekindle the flame that brought you together originally.

Do you remember your very first date together? Where was it? What did you do? What were you wearing? Was it raining, cold, sunny, was it warm? What made your day special? Talk about this together with your spouse. Reminisce. Bring back the emotions you experienced on that day. After all, on that day led to another and the next and eventually into a proposal, right? Go back in time. You'll see the passion once again make each other's eyes sparkle. Oh, the butterflies on that day! Remember? Bring out the photos from when you initially met. Look at the way you looked at each other! Oh, the love!

If you are a couple with children, you understand their needs take precedence over your own. This is how and when a couple's passion passes the wayside without realizing it. Remember, at first you're separate individuals with like interests which brought you together as a couple in the first place. Those interests were an essential aspect in your hearts uniting and wanting to spend your whole lives together. Remember? Remember? Good, that's a start! Surprise your spouse with a valentine's day card in August. Bring home flowers for no reason at all. Sneak up behind your spouse while making dinner or doing the laundry and kiss his/her neck. Spark the tingle that results in a passionate kiss (and maybe more!). Remind yourselves of the passion you shared spontaneously once upon a time ago!

Setting aside a date night is a thing you hear all the time. That too can become routine and boring. Instead, you could start to come up with a bucket list and start checking off those items one by one together! What were your dreams when you became a couple? Did you dream of riding a hot air balloon? Learning how to kayak? Do you want to learn to water ski? What were your dreams? Dreams should be realized. They are that which you anticipate achieving. I'm not discussing becoming president in the company for which you work. However, perhaps you have desired leaving the business enterprise and gone into business for yourselves? What's stopping you? Complacency, that's what!

If you have been telling yourself, "I want to save my marriage", grab the bull by the horns and rekindle the spark. Considering that, isn't the spark what brought you together from the beginning?




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