Does True Love Have To Be Unconditional?

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When we put conditions on love, is it really love at all? Isn't something less than unconditional love only a nice arrangement, a pleasant situation dependent upon specific conditions? When we make love conditional, we are stopping short of achieving love in its truest form.

Is to love not to love everything about the person? Is it the person a set of behaviors we care about? Do we love the arrangement or the person in his or her truest form? And when we say "I love you", are we not meant to be proclaiming something that is never-ending?

Most people do show unconditional love to their children. We might discard lovers or spouses, but never children. Yet that fact is interesting because romantic love asks for all of us while parenthood requires only parts of us.

In our era, people quite easily sneer at traditional vows of marriage (For better or for worse, for richer or poorer, until death do we part). People actually seem to think that such a notion is outdated; that to leave a relationship when things aren't working for some time is right. A person who makes this decision can never love in the truest sense; love is not an arrangement! Love is the combing of two souls at the deepest and most unbreakable levels!

When two lovers open themselves to unconditional love, they discover something so real and lasting that they can shed the fear of losing that love. They can suddenly discuss anything, become anything with that person. This kind of love creates a positive, never-ending feedback loop. Issues of control, and the struggles that come with it, suddenly give way to a never-ending source of growth, happiness, and newness.

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