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Friday, December 3, 2010

Is It Possible To Survive Infidelity

By Cindy Green


Many people want to know if it is possible to survive infidelity. The answer is not the same for everyone. Making it through something as hurtful as this takes a lot of time and effort and the survival rates depend on the marriage in question.

Infidelity is possibly the most hurtful thing that one partner can do to another. The injured partner is often angry and, without proper guidance, will often lash out at their husband or wife. Although this is completely normal it does not help the situation or the marriage.

When trust is broken the jilted partner may feel as if he or she cannot trust the other partner. This is frustrating for both parties because and sometimes there might not seem to be a way to resolve the problem. This is not true and there are ways in which this trust can be restores, it simply takes a lot of work.

Once an infidelity has occurred and the partner in question has come clean, there are steps that are usually taken within any marriage. The steps might be to move forward or to divorce. They can also choose to stay exactly where they are and hope the problem goes away.

Pretending will not fix the situation and often it only makes it worse. The infidelity has occurred and, if the partner care for each other at all, there will be consequences for it. The partners might make each other miserable and eventually decide to divorce anyway.

If the infidelity cannot be worked through by either one of the parties and they decide to leave then the infidelity has destroyed the marriage. There is nothing that can be done about it. This is unless the partner wants to return.

Should both parties decide to work through it the most important decision that must be made between the two of them is that they will work hard. They will work together in order to survive it. This will make their marriage stronger.

When this decision has been made it would be wise to consult a professional in the matter. This can be done through couples counseling. It is a great alternative because both parties will be given the chance to explore the issues in their marriage that might or might not have led to the infidelity.

As time goes on, the couple needs to learn how to trust each other again. This is very important as a marriage without trust is like a plane without wings. Trust can only be re-established once the jilted partner believes that he or she will not be cheated on again.

Infidelity is a big problem is marriages today and the rates are steadily rising. Marriages are not as strong as they once were and this is because it takes a lot more work to make a marriage last than most people think. Counseling might also help both couples gain a realistic perception of it.

Realizing what infidelity is about might also help to save the marriage. It opens up lines of communication between both partners and will also add to the strength of the marriage. Although infidelity is a painful experience, it does not have to be the end of your marriage.




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