There are many people today who are living in a marriage that they deem as hopeless and many find it hard to save a hopeless marriage. The endless fighting, hurtful words, and lack of love begin to take a toll even for the most optimistic. Marriages, for many reasons, begin to deteriorate after the two people have been together for some time.
Most of the time the two involved have a feeling of hopelessness in their marriage. A seemingly hopeless marriage does not have to be that way. There is a way to save it if one of the two involved wants to. Much like a tiny piece of snow falling down a hill, it only takes a small nudge to get it rolling and to turn into to a large snowball that can devastate everything in its path.
A marriage is a force of nature that cannot be stopped if it is being nudged.No matter how rough it is with your spouse, begin to listen to what they say, how they say it, and especially when they say it. There may be times when things going on in their life (work, school, friends, health, etc.) may be determining their moods.
Look at this and see if there is something you can do, or change. Talk with your spouse about what it is that you can do to make them feel better. Many counselors have said that two things will help a helpless marriage more than anything else.
The first is to simply talk without arguing or blaming. If you are blamed, then take the blame and move on. The other thing that will help is just to take a few days, or weeks, away. Send your spouse on a trip, or take one yourself, for a fresh perspective.
By simply following these two steps you will find that your marriage does not seem like such a burden, but a treasure. Everyone needs attention at some point, even the most independent people. Showing your spouse you appreciate them, and sharing your life with them, on a daily basis, is how to save a hopeless marriage.
Most of the time the two involved have a feeling of hopelessness in their marriage. A seemingly hopeless marriage does not have to be that way. There is a way to save it if one of the two involved wants to. Much like a tiny piece of snow falling down a hill, it only takes a small nudge to get it rolling and to turn into to a large snowball that can devastate everything in its path.
A marriage is a force of nature that cannot be stopped if it is being nudged.No matter how rough it is with your spouse, begin to listen to what they say, how they say it, and especially when they say it. There may be times when things going on in their life (work, school, friends, health, etc.) may be determining their moods.
Look at this and see if there is something you can do, or change. Talk with your spouse about what it is that you can do to make them feel better. Many counselors have said that two things will help a helpless marriage more than anything else.
The first is to simply talk without arguing or blaming. If you are blamed, then take the blame and move on. The other thing that will help is just to take a few days, or weeks, away. Send your spouse on a trip, or take one yourself, for a fresh perspective.
By simply following these two steps you will find that your marriage does not seem like such a burden, but a treasure. Everyone needs attention at some point, even the most independent people. Showing your spouse you appreciate them, and sharing your life with them, on a daily basis, is how to save a hopeless marriage.
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