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Sunday, January 1, 2012

Will A Separation Save Marriage?

By Trinia Poloan


The decision to separate can seem drastic to some people. Granted, there are most likely some severe issues in a relationship when the only decision left to be made is to move apart for a while. It seems that it would be possible to save a marriage by separating, but there must be clearly defined parameters for this time apart. Will separation save marriage? It's something to try!

The married couple must agree that during the time of separation, they will not date anyone else. If they choose to date someone else, they will have to consider the trust issues that they are causing for their spouse. The time apart can be supervised by a good counselor which will allow the couple to possibly remember what caused them to fall in love in the first place.

If one party in the marriage is decided on separating and the other party doesn't agree, this can escalate into much larger problems for the relationship. It is usually most helpful to have both people agree that separation is important and the right thing for their situation. If this is not an option, it can lead to more anger and issues with the relationship.

Children are often caused the most stress by a damaged marriage. If children are involved in the relationship, separation might not be the best solution. It's difficult to make a child understand why their mother or father must leave for a period of time. It's hard for a child to understand adult relationships even when there is no problem, imagine how hard it will be when the parents are arguing about moving apart. Consider separation very carefully before involving children.

A separation can lead to a complete awakening by one spouse or the other. Waking up in the morning without their partner might cause them to open their eyes and their heart and reconsider their thoughts about the marriage. This can also have the opposite effect if one mate is happier waking up without their spouse. The time apart can cause even more negative issues in a marriage.

Can separation save marriage? If both parties agree to the time apart, follow each and every ground rule that they've decided on, remember how much they love each other and attend counseling, then separation can be an excellent tool for saving a relationship.




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