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Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Extramarital Affairs - Handling This In Your Marriage

By Josh Fernan


Everybody who gets married knows that the relationship is strictly between the two of them involved. It's not expected that the intimacy would be shared by more than two individuals. This union is normally very highly protected by those in it. There's no provision for other men or women.

It is therefore a normal thing to feel outraged when extramarital affairs come into the scene. The marriage a lot of times is badly affected and except it is treated correctly, it could lead to a total demise of the marriage. As a result of the importance of this matter, we would try to find out what could lead to this state of affairs and then see how to handle it.

in many these instances, the culprit generally feels there is something missing in the marriage that they have to get from outside. It's common sense to think that no one would be looking outside if all they need is available inside. This certainly is a general assumption. We understand that there are some cases that seem to defy explanation.

It has always been surprising to me when I learn that some people do not have their needs met in their marriage. My conclusion is usually that the couple are not communicating as well as they ought. Adequate communication between them would see them knowing one anothers deepest needs.

It is however true that there's the possibility that the need could be known and not met. The task of satisfying a spouse's desire to sustain the marriage therefore rests with the couple. One basic things about marriage is the sacrifice that have to be made.

We've looked briefly at preventing the occurrence of extramarital affairs. Our next assignment would now be a case where they are already having an affair. What can the other partner do about this?

Before any other thing, it is necessary that you think before making any move. If you take the right steps, you can still fix your marriage. I always believe that the couple had communication challenges which subsequently result in the affair. It would be really hard for an affair to happen if the couple are truly tight communication wise. This is one thing I strongly subscribe to.

If you don't know anything you can do when you find out about the affair, simply go to a marriage counselor. This would afford you some time to really think things through and avoid rash decisions. There might be a need to discover what could have caused the affair to happen. This is something you might need to know if you want to ensure it doesn't reoccur.

I want you to know that you can't get over the pain and try to repair your marriage unless you forgive your spouse. That your spouse had an affair does not indicate that your marriage is over. You can sincerely fix your marriage and still go on to have a great one.

There is hope for your marriage.




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