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Thursday, March 13, 2014

How To Know If Your Marriage Needs Relationship Help?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Almost all marriages need help at one time or another in order to maintain a good relationship. Any marriage that doesn't have a good relationship will probably not last for long. Even if the union does happen to last somehow, the couples are usually not content and happy.

You might be asking yourself, what is the difference between a relationship and a marriage? A marriage is the bond that is formed in holy matrimony between two people. In the eyes of the law and man they are one. They can only be separated by divorce or death.

A relationship on the other hand, is a meaningful sense of well being formed after the marriage takes place that will grow and deepen as long as the two parties maintain their union. In many cases, the relationship actually begins prior to the marriage.

It isn't hard to tell when you need relationship help for your marriage. However, other people might notice this well before you do. Some of the warning signs include going alone to functions and then offer an excuse for why your spouse is not in attendance.

If you're a couple, the more you're out without one another, the more likely your relationship needs help. When you are together you likely don't do a lot of talking, you may simply sit with one another but not really say anything or worse, you may pretend the other person is interesting all the while hoping the event is over soon.

More signs of a relationship in decline are lack of interest in the bedroom. While both of you may be young and attractive, the spark has gone out and one of you may even fantasize about others.

There is no affection in your relationship. Nobody says I love you, there are no kisses or hugs. Human beings have the need to be satisfied, happy, to feel worthy and to be touched. If there is no touch, your marriage has a serious problem.

If carried to the extremes, your partner can really be turned off by jealousy. The jealous person might withdraw from intimacy because they think their partner has been unfaithful. The accused person might also hold back on their feelings because they are tired of all the jealous questions and constant badgering.

Make sure to not exaggerate the situation and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is a problem, you'll need to seek help. If intimacy is to be a part of the relationship, then jealousy must go.

Debt and money issues can cause relationship problems too. Not enough money to meet day-to-day needs is always cause for concern. But, if the couple is willing to work together and come up with a budget and live within their means, this will help to greatly release some of the tension.

Living within a budget can actually save a relationship. Too much debt can put a serious strain on the marriage. When either spouse constantly overspends and they are drowning in a sea of debt, then the marriage will also begin to sink.

Marriages suffer frequently when things like this occur. Conflicts and disagreements soon become the norm. It's good to stop and do inventory on occasion and see how things are really going between the two of you. Make the required adjustments and continue on in your life. You will see a huge difference and the relationship will become much stronger in the end.




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