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Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Heeding The Signs That You Might Have A Bad Marriage

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.

Too many people grow up with parents that are not happy together. As a result, they do not understand what a marriage is supposed to be like. They think that it is okay not to express feelings of love for one another. They think it is normal to be unhappy the majority of the time. Therefore, when their own marriage becomes tough to endure, they simply think their situation is normal, when in reality, they deserve so much better.

Do not ignore what is happening with your marriage. It is incredibly scary to think about being alone or to come to the conclusion that your marriage is going to be a statistic. You may be worried about your children or how the rest of your family will react to your failing marriage.

If you have children as a result of the marriage, this type of a situation is never healthy for them either and it warrants some thought on whether or not the marriage is worth keeping together.

Do not deny what has been happening. Maybe you think that marriage is sacred and don't want to seek help because you are afraid to fail. Other people may stay in a bad marriage because they are doing it for their children, or they don't want to disappoint their family and friends. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness to protect them. Admit what is happen, then seek help.

There will often be a lot of excuses being made by either partner to try and stay away from home as much as possible or there will be a lot of issues that can arise from having a difficult time staying on the same page when it comes to important decisions.

The worst thing that you can do if there are any signs that you are in a bad marriage is falling into a state of denial. No matter how sacred you feel the bond of marriage is, you are not going to be doing either of you justice by trying to keep the pieces of your relationship from falling apart.

Keeping a positive attitude is very important, but remember, you can't turn a blind eye to everything that is going wrong with your marriage. Only by addressing your problems can you seek effective solutions.

It may be hard to talk about your problems, but the only alternative is to suffer in silence. You can fix your marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

If it means letting go of the marriage for the sake of your children as well as your sanity, then you may just find that everyone involved will be much happier in the long run. When you come to this realization, you need to remember that the dissolution of your marriage is nothing that you need to be ashamed about, especially if you worked hard to try and keep it together.




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