How can we certain that our marriage will actually survive or if it will fail? I want to share with you one thing that will guarantee that it will in fact fail. Do you think that you know what it is? I'll give you one guess...
If you are like most people you probably said "fighting" because how could fighting be healthy for your marriage, right? WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
Now I'm not trying to say that you need to go out now and hunt for your significant other just for the sake of fighting. Fighting doesn't mean that you have a happy marriage either. But what I am saying is that in order to have a healthy marriage you will need to fight once in a while. In fact this actually proves that you are in love with each other. You do need to learn how to fight to be happily married though.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
If you are like most people you probably said "fighting" because how could fighting be healthy for your marriage, right? WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
Now I'm not trying to say that you need to go out now and hunt for your significant other just for the sake of fighting. Fighting doesn't mean that you have a happy marriage either. But what I am saying is that in order to have a healthy marriage you will need to fight once in a while. In fact this actually proves that you are in love with each other. You do need to learn how to fight to be happily married though.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
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