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Thursday, November 25, 2010

Tips on How to Fix Marriage Effectively

By Cindy Green


You and your spouse have been having some problems and you feel that your marriage might be over. If this situation is happening to you, it can be a heartbreaking and yet difficult time. There are still things you can do to fix marriage. Here are a few tips to mend your marriage.

The most important thing to remember is that communication must be flowing between both the husband and the wives. The most common thing a person does when a significant other, does or says something hurtful without realizing it, is ignore it without saying it a word about it. After a while many things that were said or done that hurt, have began to accumulate.

If you bottle up your feelings then these feelings will eventually burst and come out at bad times or when you least expect it. You and your spouse may be arguing over something small but your bottled up feelings will come out and make the small situation into something greater. This is why you should always voice your opinion and talk about things in order to change them in time.

Anytime your spouse says or does something that upsets or hurts you, you should talk to him or her about it. When you talk about it when it happens you can come to an understanding and changed what bothered you or your spouse. By communicating your feelings you fix minor problems before they become bigger. Talking about them once you have accumulated will lead you to state your feelings in more of an accusatory manner.

Another way to try and mend a marriage is by doing things the way you did when you were dating. After several years of marriage, you tend to get used to one another and start taking each other for granted. The 'I love you' notes might stop or even the kisses each time you see each other may have stopped. These small things can make all the difference in a marriage.

Re-visit the places you two used to go out to as a date. Go to your favorite spot, or to dance your song as a couple. All these things can make you remember why you loved your partner in the first place. If you have children find a baby sitter for the night and enjoy each others company. Sometimes this is all that is needed to help fix things between you and your loved one.

You and your spouse should try and take a trip together. Plan a vacation where only you and your spouse will attend. This will be your get away from the stress that comes with every day life. This stress can cause you and your significant other to release the tension on each other, by yelling and screaming at one another. Even taking care of your children can cause stress and tension in a marriage.

You and your spouse should plan a vacation without the kids. Have the grandparents watch the kids while you go away for a weekend, a week or even a month. The important thing is that you two take that much needed time to enjoy one another without the stress of every day life to fix marriage.




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