When you begin to identify some of the signs associated with a down sliding relationship, you might be thinking "what can I do to save my relationship?" Hopefully this article will become a resource you can turn to to help you decide what it is that your relationship needs to get a jump start.
One of the most crucial pieces of advice anyone can provide you with is communication. Obviously, there's something bad going on with your relationship and you need to change that. There's no way any change can happen unless you actually know what your partner is thinking. What's you begin the communication process, it's fairly possible your partner will begin to participate as well.
It is not proper to be judgmental in the beginning of the conversation. It may put both of you in a defensive mode. State what exactly you desire from your partner and request him or her to follow suit. Ask your partner the reasons for feeling that way. You should neither adopt a negative approach nor strike off your partner's points. Your opinion about yourself can be different from that of your partner's.
One example might be control. If she thinks you might get controlling, ask her what you could do to alter that. If you ask her to call you the time why is that? Are you insecure? If you are, what can she do to help with that, without you controlling her as much as she feels you do?
This is not at all a one sided conversation. No one should be doing all the talking. One person isn't to blame for the downfalls of the relationship and thinking so will only force the relationship down a bad path.
Now find out what is absent. Surely it will be difficult. To do this, one way is to think about the changes that have come about in the relationship, like your partner sleeping further away or the two of you not spending enough time with each other. Once you pinpoint the change, you can reach a solution.
It is never easy to to love or trust someone so you really need to work hard to keep your relationship alive. But you don't have to do everything alone or to make allowances all of the time. As already mentioned, It takes two people to have a relationship problem so, you cannot solve the problem alone. This is not for the faint of heart as there will be some emotional pain involved in that conversation. But the dialogue is needed as it will help you keep your partnership alive.
It is important to refrain from angry outbursts as yelling and screaming as they prevent you from hearing each other. If you conclude the discussion and discover that you are not a good match for each other then consider it to be a good thing as you finally found out.
Even if at the end of the conversation you figure out how incompatible you are at least you know now. This conversation is the only way you could ever figure out what's wrong and try to fix it. Otherwise, it's a lot of empty conversations and more fighting--definitely something you are already tired of having to deal with.
One of the most crucial pieces of advice anyone can provide you with is communication. Obviously, there's something bad going on with your relationship and you need to change that. There's no way any change can happen unless you actually know what your partner is thinking. What's you begin the communication process, it's fairly possible your partner will begin to participate as well.
It is not proper to be judgmental in the beginning of the conversation. It may put both of you in a defensive mode. State what exactly you desire from your partner and request him or her to follow suit. Ask your partner the reasons for feeling that way. You should neither adopt a negative approach nor strike off your partner's points. Your opinion about yourself can be different from that of your partner's.
One example might be control. If she thinks you might get controlling, ask her what you could do to alter that. If you ask her to call you the time why is that? Are you insecure? If you are, what can she do to help with that, without you controlling her as much as she feels you do?
This is not at all a one sided conversation. No one should be doing all the talking. One person isn't to blame for the downfalls of the relationship and thinking so will only force the relationship down a bad path.
Now find out what is absent. Surely it will be difficult. To do this, one way is to think about the changes that have come about in the relationship, like your partner sleeping further away or the two of you not spending enough time with each other. Once you pinpoint the change, you can reach a solution.
It is never easy to to love or trust someone so you really need to work hard to keep your relationship alive. But you don't have to do everything alone or to make allowances all of the time. As already mentioned, It takes two people to have a relationship problem so, you cannot solve the problem alone. This is not for the faint of heart as there will be some emotional pain involved in that conversation. But the dialogue is needed as it will help you keep your partnership alive.
It is important to refrain from angry outbursts as yelling and screaming as they prevent you from hearing each other. If you conclude the discussion and discover that you are not a good match for each other then consider it to be a good thing as you finally found out.
Even if at the end of the conversation you figure out how incompatible you are at least you know now. This conversation is the only way you could ever figure out what's wrong and try to fix it. Otherwise, it's a lot of empty conversations and more fighting--definitely something you are already tired of having to deal with.
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