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Friday, February 4, 2011

Marriage After Infidelity - Should You Stay or Should You Go?

By Cecilia Green


Recovering from infidelity is a most difficult and trying time in one's life, and you may wonder if there is any hope to save your marriage. After dealing with the initial shock and horror of the news, you may need to take time to decide if the bonds between you and your spouse will ever be repaired.

Discovering that your spouse has had an affair is nothing short of devastating. You probably feel like you have been socked in the gut and you may not be able to get the negative thoughts and images out of your mind. Lack of answers and communication from your spouse will only make you feel worse, and you may start to wonder if ending your marriage is the only solution.

Affairs in marriage have shown to be fairly common, but sadly, many are not willing to make an effort to save the marriage after the affair. Although it can seem overwhelming at first, and to emotionally taxing, couples who are willing to put the time and effort into salvaging things can certainly overcome this devastating event. It will be necessary to ask yourself what you are wiling to do to make things work out for you and your marriage.

You must find out is the affair has ended, for good. Also be sure the cheating partner is ready to do the work with you to save the marriage. Willingness to attending counseling to discuss the issue is a must for both of you, and your spouse must especially be willing to be humble in this trying time. Your partner is responsible for showing their desire to change through actions, not just though words.

Your spouse is not the only one responsible for working towards a better marriage. You must be willing to make the effort too. You are hurt and feel so betrayed, and that is to be expected, but only you can control your thoughts and feelings. Although recovering from infidelity seems like a mountain you just can climb over, remember you do have the power to overcome the bad emotions, and you can learn to love yourself again, and your partner too.

After the affair, it is so important to discover the answer to the above things in order to move on from this devastating betrayal. Emotions run high in times like this, but discussing with your spouse the efforts each of you are willing to put in to save the marriage is a great next step in finding your happiness again.




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