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Thursday, February 3, 2011

Preserving Happy Marriage

By Roselah Varde


If your marriage is in the verge of divorce, countercheck the quality of trust, fidelity, and communication. They are vital to the survival once you get into a married life. If you feel it's worthy to salvage your marriage, then give it a shot.

Step 1: Realize that communication is a skill

People learn to communicate as they develop. However, therapeutic communication is a learn skill. Appropriate timing, choice of words, and practice are major factors to communicate therapeutically.

Furthermore, this is not just a basic skill. You can advance to the higher level once you mastered the basic essentials of communication. Even professionals study how to communicate with people because it is one of the greatest contributing factors that affects interpersonal relationships.

For marriages and other relationships to survive, open and honest communication is necessary. Positive communication skills in the dating stage should be carried on until the married life.

Understanding the importance of commitment and communication is also important. In order to be committed with your marriage, communicate as often as necessary with your spouse.

Tip 2: Honest Promises.

As mentioned, communication should be honest. Don't hide something that is necessary to disclose. Remember that it is difficult to mend a broken relationship when trust is involved. A lasting marriage, as you should have realized by now, is a product of trust and fidelity. So, do what you can do and promise what you are capable of doing.

Step 3: Promise to each other to reveal what you are tempted to lie about

Any form of lies, white or evil, should be avoided. You may feel some hesitations to reveal what you have to reveal but take the challenge now than suffer your whole marriage. It may hurt your spouse if you reveal something to them, but he/she has the right to know.

Gather more courage because dishonesty has no place in marriage. Exercise absolute honesty and reveal your deepest secrets one by one. Your spouse has to know for him/her to understand the situation better.

When you are attempted to lie, explain why you have to do this for him/her to understand. If not, just be open and honest. It may hurt at first but things can be mend easily because of your honesty.

In this article I touched on three steps that are important for opening up the lines of communication again in your marriage. This is by no means a cure all answer to the question, "how can I save my marriage?" However, these three tips are a good first step to begin honest dialog with your spouse again, which is important in the process of saving your marriage.




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