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Friday, August 19, 2011

Do You Really Want to be Well-Matched?

By Alyssa Villame


While some relationships are special in a sense that two people are queer enough to end up in each other's arms, there are just details of each person that made it work. Compatibility is more than just looking good with your partner, on the outside. It does not even essentially mean liking the same things.

What people should understand is that differences are like the spice of every relationship. It is there to be nurtured and to be transformed into something that would eventually nurture the bond. If a man likes to play sports, for example, and a woman does not, there is no need to break up because of just that. Respecting one another's preference is one of the things to work on in the relationship and is the primary thing that make the relationship last.

But of course, there is a need to pinpoint the specific differences according to category, in order to know how to address them. Social preferences, principles and values, religious beliefs, family, money, communication and interest are just some of the things to be noted. Without noting, one will assume acceptance and that will cause a huge fight.

Even if your partner fails to be compatible with your preferences, in most of the categories, there is no need to become frustrated. Some couples are compatible in their own differences. Being too compatible can lead to a state of just being friends, instead of lovers. Being too compatible can lead to too much familiarity. As they say, 'familiarity begets contempt.' You don't want that to happen to your relationship.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with finding someone who can feed with your own grace. You will find some else who likes a specific sport just like you. So, don't hesitate to change things when you feel as if the relationship is not going anywhere.




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