It's very common for long term marriages to lose the initial spark that they used to have after the first few years of being married. Nonetheless that does not mean that you're destined to be in an unsatisfying relationship. You and your other half used to be very in love together. The one thing that has changed between both of you is that life and it's realities made negative feelings that significantly contrasted with the emotions you used to have during your first years of "marital bliss."
If you do not know whether or not you are in a relationship rut, here are a few signs that you and your partner might be stuck.
-You and your other half barely connect on a deep and emotional level.
-You and your spouse have a routine that "works" for both of you but sadly, you are getting bored with each other.
-You and your other half seldom laugh and play together.
-You feel unhappy in your relationship
-You and your spouse have lost that "spark and attraction"
If any of the above fits the description of your marriage, than you and your partner are stuck in a relationship rut.
If you want to nourish and treat your relationship from the core, than you will have to take a deeper look at the reason why the spark has fizzled out.
Your relationship problem is similar to having a blemish on your face. Here is how you can treat the root of the pimple instead of covering it up with makeup or concealer to give the appearance of clean and healthy skin.
Being a "Yes" to What Life Throws At You
Most couples who do not do, allows what happens to be fine. When you resist a situation or a feeling, you unavoidably create more pain for yourself.
This doesn't mean that you can't feel miserable or upset, instead try to be accepting of your feelings. You should accept your companion as well. Accept how they feel and what they do. When your man or spouse does not give you the attention you need, don't fight it. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you are feeling and let it be okay. When people get upset at their partner, they don't seem to be accepting what occurred in their relationship. They are holding on to their negative emotions because they are not in acceptance of the situation. Regardless of what your partner said or did, it happened. There's nothing you can do about it but to accept what happened and find a solution to fixing the problem.
If you frequently allow negative emotions to fester within you, you are resisting and doing your best to oppose what occurred. And guess what, you can't control the past. Next time you're upset at your partner for something they have done, tell them how you are feeling (using "I" statements so you don't evoke a fight). You are not being a doormat, you're just not letting those negative feeling get the best of you. This is going to help you concentrate on the good parts in your marriage.
If you want to know how strengthen your marriage, check out these powerful relationship advice on The Path to Passion.
If you do not know whether or not you are in a relationship rut, here are a few signs that you and your partner might be stuck.
-You and your other half barely connect on a deep and emotional level.
-You and your spouse have a routine that "works" for both of you but sadly, you are getting bored with each other.
-You and your other half seldom laugh and play together.
-You feel unhappy in your relationship
-You and your spouse have lost that "spark and attraction"
If any of the above fits the description of your marriage, than you and your partner are stuck in a relationship rut.
If you want to nourish and treat your relationship from the core, than you will have to take a deeper look at the reason why the spark has fizzled out.
Your relationship problem is similar to having a blemish on your face. Here is how you can treat the root of the pimple instead of covering it up with makeup or concealer to give the appearance of clean and healthy skin.
Being a "Yes" to What Life Throws At You
Most couples who do not do, allows what happens to be fine. When you resist a situation or a feeling, you unavoidably create more pain for yourself.
This doesn't mean that you can't feel miserable or upset, instead try to be accepting of your feelings. You should accept your companion as well. Accept how they feel and what they do. When your man or spouse does not give you the attention you need, don't fight it. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you are feeling and let it be okay. When people get upset at their partner, they don't seem to be accepting what occurred in their relationship. They are holding on to their negative emotions because they are not in acceptance of the situation. Regardless of what your partner said or did, it happened. There's nothing you can do about it but to accept what happened and find a solution to fixing the problem.
If you frequently allow negative emotions to fester within you, you are resisting and doing your best to oppose what occurred. And guess what, you can't control the past. Next time you're upset at your partner for something they have done, tell them how you are feeling (using "I" statements so you don't evoke a fight). You are not being a doormat, you're just not letting those negative feeling get the best of you. This is going to help you concentrate on the good parts in your marriage.
If you want to know how strengthen your marriage, check out these powerful relationship advice on The Path to Passion.
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