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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Getting Your Boyfriend Back Does Not Have To Mean Heartache

By Kath Babenko


Do you wish you knew what to say and what to do to get your ex boyfriend back? Has your man left you and nothing you have tried has make the least bit of difference? Find out why you might be standing in your own way of having the love that you want and getting your man back.

You adore your boyfriend with all your heart and all your soul and this is why your heart is breaking so. You cry out into the night wishing and dreaming that the pain would stop because no matter how hard you try, you just can't seem to relight the flame of desire in your ex. Nothing works and out of shear desperation you just feel like collapsing and giving up on the thought of ever getting your man back.

If I could, I would take the pain away and keep you entertained until the time was right and he was back in love with you again. I wish I could be the angel on your shoulder telling what to say and do and what not to say and do in order to get him back. Yes, you might think that you are working hard to get your boyfriend back but in actuality, you are probably doing a lot of damage to your relationship and your chances of getting him back. This is not to say that things are beyond hope or that you just need to give up. I am just saying that there is a very good chance that instead of drawing your man closer to you, the things that you are doing to try to repair your relationship are probably making matters worse.

The power with which you love your man is something to be admired but sometimes all of that love can cause women to become blind to what they are actually doing. All of that love bestowed upon someone that has made a decision to leave can have the opposite effect and make him even more determined to be apart from you. Wanting him so much can actually be a repellent. I know that sometimes you can't help yourself and you feel the need to express that love to your man and you might fear that if he doesn't know that you love him that he will forget about you. Unfortunately, right now it might be necessary to mess with his mind a bit if you ever hope to get him back.

We are not going to play him like you would any other guy that you might be interested in. Your ex knows you better and he is going to be on the lookout for your next attempt to convince him to come back to you if you have put a lot of effort into trying to repair your relationship and get him back. You are just going to have to be a little more clever than him and stay a few steps ahead of him while relying upon some basic human psychology to create the tension and thus the desire in his heart to be with you and eventually, fall in love with you again.

This means that even though you might think that calling him up and telling him that you still love him and that you'll wait forever for him if that is what it takes, the tactic that will work is more laid back and more psychological in nature. Severing communication with him is a good first step when trying to get your boyfriend back. I know that it is going to be difficult and it goes against everything that you might think that works but trust me. If you are serious about getting your boyfriend back, just backing off and getting your own act together while you let him wonder what you are up to is necessary.

You will find that just backing off and not trying so hard will bring about many changes in your boyfriend. Even though you might not be able to see these changes, just trust that they are happening. At first he will be relieved that you aren't contacting him. Then one day he might wonder what you are doing. It will come sort of all of the sudden and you might get a text message from him or a call. He will have some sort of lame excuse for contacting you but you can be sure that the results of trying so hard to get him back have worn off and that he is on his way back to you. Although, this isn't a complete plan for getting your boyfriend back I think that you can see the power in this first step to getting your boyfriend back.




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