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Thursday, December 29, 2011

Is Saving A Difficult Marriage Possible?

By Michael Van Etten


This article on how to save your marriage may be the best thing you read this year. A marriage is a very precious and sacred thing. After a few weeks, months or years of marriage, you may be beginning to sense some weakness. Welcome to the club; we've all experienced that.

Can Your Marriage Be Saved?

To be honest, and this is an honest article, I don't know if it is possible to save your marriage or not. I want to provide some thoughts to help you have the best chance you can of saving your marriage. I have seen lots of marriages come back together, better than they ever were by using some of the ideas in this article.

What To Do For Your Marriage

People need tips and advice when they are stuck. Here are some ideas to help you get unstuck from the dismal state your marriage is currently in. Try making some long-term plans together. It is important for a couple to share a positive vision of where their marriage could go and what it could become. Things like, happy, trusting, fulfilling, and peaceful would be a good starting place. Also, have some specific goals and targets. Would you like to go to Fiji on your tenth wedding anniversary? How about spending a week in New York City, seeing Broadway plays, shopping, and seeing Time Square. Build some plans, then build some great memories together.

Is Communication The Key To Saving Your Marriage?

It probably is, without trying to be too dramatic. You have problems in your marriage and you need to discuss them in order to be able to find solutions to them. Solving your problems will restore your marriage. That will entail listening to really understand your partner. Remember, there are two phases to solving a problem. First is fully describing or understanding the problem. Then, the second phase is coming up with possible solutions and deciding on one that works for both of you. You can't solve a problem until you both agree on what the problem is. Take turns talking and listening. Take notes while your partner talks.

Save Your Marriage By Building On Past Successes

You two probably decided to get married for good reasons. You enjoyed doing things together, spending time together, and were probably physically attracted to each other. You wanted to spend your life together. In this difficult phase of your marriage, take time to look back and remember what drew you to your partner in the first place. It often helps to make a list of things that you like about your partner, and review it daily.

There have been times when you laughed together, cried together, and did things together when time seemed to stand still. Those times are very precious in your memory, and it's important not to let them go quickly or leave the relationship in which they were created.

I hope these points will be helpful to you in your journey as you seek to improve and even save your marriage.




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