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Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Tips To Save This Marriage

By Bianchen Zhua


My marriage is going through a rough time and might be failing right now and I want to save this marriage. If you have found yourself saying this, you are not the first or last one to say it. Every marriage goes through rocky waters, but it is what you do during those hardships that determine if you sink or succeed.

Any couple that has been married for a long time will attest that communication is the most important thing to the survival of a marriage. Without talking about your problems, your partner will never know what is wrong. Open up and you might be able to find a solution.

Not every solution is easy, so compromise is critical. Instead of forcing your partner to do something or not do something, find a solution that you both can be happy with.

Always resist the urge to argue. Always stay calm and do not raise your voices. If a conversation seems to be headed that way, take a break and come back fresh. Think about what you are saying because once you say it, you cannot take it back.

You should also always have somewhere to go if an argument escalates. Go to another room in the house. If that does not work, go for a walk or spend some time somewhere else.

Never touch each other. In anger, refuse the urge to try holding or comforting each other. This gesture may seem like a good idea to you but can easily be seen as threatening by the other person.

When you cannot solve to problem on your own, you always have the option to seek professional help. Marriage counselors have earned somewhat of a bad reputation, but have experience in almost every type of marital skirmish, so they can offer suggestions and help.

When you find yourself saying that you want to save this marriage, remember there are simple things that you and your significant other can do. Follow some of these tips and ensure that your bond lasts an eternity.




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