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Monday, April 11, 2011

Larry King's Ongoing Marriage Saga

By Dr. Vance Hardisty


Not long ago I made reference to the abysmal record Larry King has in regard to marriage and wives. His 8th hookup to Shawn Southwick is in the dissolving stage, and although it was reported that they were trying to save the marriage, I suggested that you not hold your breath. Since then, Southwick, according to police reports, purposely took an overdose of drugs.

King is touted as being sexy, appealing and attractive to women, and many theories as to why are suggested by "experts." It certainly wouldn't appear to be his looks. For example, some say it's because he pays attention and since women have a need to be listened to, they are drawn to him. Or...he is non- threatening whereas many men are too domineering with women. Or the ladies can't resist what will become theirs: riches, power, and prominence. Other theories persist; and frankly, although they seem to be correct to a point, they miss the mark overall...the bottom line.

When a man goes through wives as if he were sorting garbage, we need to hearken back to the core reasons why the women want out after awhile, in spite of the wealth, glory and position they acquire by association. Those main reasons are in my books and other material. Throughout I explain the whys, wherefores and what men should do to keep their wives from being crushed.

I can say for a moment here that women have emotional needs that men are ordained by God to meet. There are historical as well as obvious contemporary reasons for my saying that. If the men fall short in that regard, the women, no matter how beautiful they are and how successful or not successful the men are, wilt and can slip into despair.

Shawn Southwick seemingly is a typical case. Beautiful, vivacious, and the mother of two of King's children, she reportedly became addicted to prescription drugs in 2008. Why? After all, according to the standards of the world, she had everything. Aside from the core reasons I mentioned above, let's look at one evident possibility. If reports are true that King has been in a sexual relationship with Southwick's sister (which he supposedly denies), that would explain a lot, would it not? A woman can be destroyed by her husband having an affair with anyone - let alone the horrors of that person being her sister.

Add to that a man who seems not to care - we're told that he took days to come to Southwick's side when she took the overdose - and we get a profile of a man whose idea of romance is to woo, win, shut out and drop.

Since I've guided hundreds, I also see a pattern here - a left brained man who seeks out right brained women - but who is not willing to make necessary changes to supply the ladies' innermost needs. For example, although he listens on his show to his interviewees, does King listen and talk with his wife? That's unlikely. Left brained people aren't spontaneous communicators. Another example: the man appears retiring and almost vulnerable on TV, a factor that may bring out the mother instinct in women. That's his persona that works well as a talk show host; but at home, it's reported that he is different, very strong and definitely in control. That's okay. My husband is like that, too, but he lessens it with tenderness, kindness and lots of attention. Essential.

Ah, well, the world is full of Larry King's, (whether they are famous or not) and their unhappy wives. I don't want you to be so silly. Your marriage is worth saving and can be saved by your making a few adjustments. If you say, "My marriage is doing just fine," please trust me when I say that it can be better. That's what we're all about - getting to the core reasons behind unhappiness in relationships and proceeding on that knowledge.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com




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