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Friday, March 11, 2011

Fixing Your Marriage

By Bart Collins


The day of the wedding You promised to love each other for better or worse. Unfortunately, the 'worse' has happened and now you find your marriage in dire danger of being over. A broken marriage, or one on the verge of collapsing, is very difficult to mend. Men who have experienced this emotional destruction know exactly how painful and difficult it can be. It is without a doubt devastating to be left alone.Left to face the possibility of a life without the one person that you love the most. But Honestly, there is hope. Finding a way to get your wife back might require a lot of time & effort, but it is entirely possible with the right approach.

So, what is the right approach?? Try to win her heart back first. Try to remember the things you did that helped your wife fall in love with you in the very first place. Be that person she fell in love with again. Emphasize the qualities that you used then to gain her heart back in the days when you two were just friends. Winning her back now might take a lot of time and effort and patience, but you can absolutely do it. You have to be devoted to your goal, but be very smart about it. Stalking her every movement or calling & texting her every few minutes will certainly NOT be helpful, and in fact will likely anger her and be most counter-productive.

What really does works is to tell her how great she looks. Remind her of how beautiful you think she is, of how beautiful you've always thought she was. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but be genuine and honest and your sincerity will shine through to her. Swallow your pride, you will not need it anyway. You need to focus on her and rebuilding love and trust.

Recognize your own short comings and mistakes and do your best to learn from them. Change in life is inevitable, but seek always to change for the better. Even talk about these things with her, just don't beg for forgiveness. No woman wants to see her husband begging and crying for help, especially about making decisions. Prove to her that you are serious in your intentions to reconcile. Amaze her with your patience and persistence. If she declines any of your offers, don't make a big deal about it. It is her right to do so. She still obviously needs time to think things over.

Try to understand your wife's motives and feelings and perspective. Think of the things that made her mad and caused conflict between you both. Think about the things or circumstance that led to her departure. Learn from this and think of ways to not only avoid these issues in the future but make them better.

It takes a lot of resolve and a whole new sense of commitment to successfully get your wife back. Practice positive approaches and devote your efforts to improving yourself and relationship skills towards winning her back rather than sulking or feeling bitter. Be the best man you that you can be. Be the best friend, lover and husband you can be, and once you have her back in your arms, never let her go again.



Bart Collins is a Featured Speaker on Relationship Issues in the DFW Area.His articles are featured in Several Magazines as well as Ezine Publications.

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