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Friday, November 4, 2011

Are There Books On Marriage That May Help Us Avoid Divorce?

By Will Scott


Statistics prove that upwards of 50-60% of all marriages will end in divorce. Sobering, isn't it? I just wish it were otherwise.

One reason for this is because young adults are foolish and marry too young. They think they fall completely in love with somebody in highschool or university and rush themselves into getting married. The problem with this is that people change and mature over their lives.

The person you fell head over heels in love with might not be the same person down the road. In fact , you can count on it.

This is where a large amount of Problems result from. However as many issues as there may be, as many changes as there might be, you continue to may love one another. It is during situations like these that you could be attempting to find books on marriage that can help you fix your marriage problems.

There are lots of ways in which you can fix your marriage, with literally tons of tips out there. While I will not go thru each one of them, I can list a few here to help you get on the right track, save your marriage and avoid divorce.

1. Communication. Communication is the single most important aspect during any relationship. we haven't any way to know what's worrying others unless they inform us. It's also the same way for them. If you bottle up your feelings and do not talk about your issues, your other half will have no idea there even is a difficulty.

These bottled up emotions will wind up surfacing during an argument and finish up blindsiding your spouse, leaving them hurt and confused. Rather than letting this happen, just talk with them and try to settle your issues before they spiral beyond control.

2. Compromise. Plenty of books on marriage will tell you that compromises are everything. You are two individuals, different people with different tastes. So you obviously will not agree on each single situation. Instead of arguing and fighting when you don't agree, cool your head and try to come to an accommodation that will make both you and your spouse satisfied.

3. Stay calm and go slow. Fights sprout up in any relationship. Even the best of pals will fight. The key is to not let these fights spin beyond control and devastate your marriage. Keep your calm and make sure you don't do something you will end up regretting. When you try applying any fix to your marriage ensure you take them nice and slow, as rushing them can do more damage than benefit.

4. Forgive and forget. Know which hills to die on and when to make a strategic withdraw. Not every fight and debate needs to be some major production that gets brought up for months or years yet to come. Instead of sticking to past fights, pardon your spouse for any errors and allow yourself and your spouse to go on.

5. Marriage counseling. If all else fails, if tips do not help and all of the books on marriage do not work, then you may have to try to go to a marriage counselor. These counselors are professionals, trained to help repair your marriage and avoid divorce.




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