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Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Do You Want to Know If the Feelings You are Feeling Is Part of a Stage in Your Relationship

By Clay Andrews


In long-term relationships and marriages, a growing gap between each couples is a common occurrence. It can be very upsetting to think your relationship is losing it's spark and to be continually questioning whether you and your spouse belong together is not easy.

In a beginning of a relationship, everything is fresh and exciting. This is known as the "Honeymoon" phase and it can last between a couple of months to 2-3 years (it varies with each couple.) This phase is awfully exciting, passionate and romantically happy. Finally after being together for quite some time, you and your other half will start to see details about one another that you may not have seen in the beginning of the relationship. This is a phase when your relationship becomes deeper on a more intimate level.

At this point, you and your partner might or might not be living together but when you as a couple share private space, that is when you start seeing certain habits you haven't spotted before and may have conflicts which will shatter your belief in your relationship. Also at this point you and your spouse begin to make stage-changing choices together like buying a car, house. Sharing bank accounts or marrying.

Here's where many women or men begin to question their relationship. At that point, your relationship is a harsh contrast to the exciting and fresh honeymoon phase. You know that you love your spouse, but you ask why your relationship is not as simple as it used to be. That's due to the fact you both are going through a different phase in your relationship that may require effort and work to cultivate your love.

This is where you and your partner are going to find an efficient way to handle conflicts and strengthen your marriage. At this point, your relationship may get a little more challenging to keep together. You and your partner fight a bit more and your relationship may go through a turbulence of mix feelings. This is when you question if you and your other half should be together.

This is a tough stage because it is so different to marriage delight you had at the start stages of your relationship. This is when many marriages fail. Unless you can find a better way to coping with conflicts and intense circumstances. Couples who make it through this stage comes out stronger than ever. They have developed abilities to better communicate, compromise and resolve conflicts.

What you are feeling is extremely normal and it doesn't mean you've fallen out of love with your partner and that your relationship is headed for trouble. It just implies you and your partner are going through a certain phase that may give your relationship an opportunity to grow and reach it's total potential.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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