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Monday, November 21, 2011

Begin Right Now and Stop Your Marriage From Ending

By Clay Andrews


Having said that, it's actually possible to keep your marriage alive even when you've lost all hope. At one time, your partner is going to have to join you in saving your relationship. The question is..."how are you able to make your spouse want to keep your marriage going?" Check out the following tips below to save your marriage, even though you're the only one who's committed to fixing it.

Keep these 2 things in mind:

1) You're the only one in the marriage that can change yourself. You can't change anyone regardless of if that individual is your partner.

2) Start making changes in your life, your other half can take the lead to change also. This is due to the fact that when you change, your relationship dynamic can change as well. This will push your other half to adjust as well.

If you do these changes thoroughly and cleverly, it can inspire your spouse to do some positive change and you will not feel just like saving your marriage alone after all.

If there is any issues in your relationship of any type, then the best thing that you can do is ask yourself on how you contributed to it. The issues in a relationship are rarely due to one person. One such example is when your partner is treating you badly then you've got to ask why it is occurring. Maybe your partner is truly is a jerk but if this has been happening for a while then it is usually because you are permitting it. You need to take responsibility as well to why your marriage has soured.

One quote from Dr.. Phil, who has helped many people has said, "We teach people how to treat us" This is a forceful truth. If you are saving your marriage alone then you have to ask yourself some things on why your spouse is reacting to you in this certain ways.

If you happen to feel like you do not merit respect then people are not going to offer you respect. Somewhere along the path, our perspective of our own self worth gets bent. And we perceive what we get is what we deserve. That is not the case.

Your partner is responsible for the actions being made. The single thing you are responsible of is your own reaction and your own approach. If you would like to keep your marriage alive, then you need to make the right changes in your own reaction or your own attitude. If you are doing a similar thing with no results, then you know you're approaching it the wrong way. It's time that you do something different.

Did you know that you have the power to change your marriage more than you realize? When you change yourself, your attitude, behavior and reaction in your relationship, then you will see that it can change your marriage also. All successful marriages consist of people who feel successful themselves as an individual.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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