It's very common for long term marriages to lose the initial spark that they used to have after the first few years of being married. However , that does not necessarily mean that you are going to be in an unsatisfying relationship. You and your other half used to be so in love together. The one thing that has changed between you both is that life and it's harsh realities created negative emotions that significantly contrasted with the emotions you used to have during your first years of "marital bliss."
If you do not know whether you're in a relationship rut, here are a few signs that you and your partner may be stuck.
-You and your partner hardly connect on a deep and emotional level. -You and your other half have a routine that "works" for the both of you but unfortunately, you're getting bored with each other. -You and your spouse seldom laugh and play together. -You feel unhappy in your marriage -You and your spouse have lost that "spark and attraction"
If any of the above fits the description of your relationship, than you and your other half are stuck in a relationship rut. If you desire to nourish and treat your relationship from the core, than you have to take a deeper look at why the spark has fizzled out.
Your relationship problem is similar to having a blemish on your face. Here is how you can treat the root of the pimple instead of covering it up with makeup or concealer to give the appearance of healthful and clean skin.
Being a "Yes" to What Life Throws At You
Most couples who don't do, allows what happens to be alright. When you resist a situation or a feeling, you inevitably create more suffering for yourself.
This doesn't mean that you can't feel disappointed or upset, instead try to be accepting of your emotions. You should accept your companion as well. Accept how they feel and what they do. When your man or spouse doesn't give you the affection you want, don't fight it. Let yourself feel whatever emotion you are feeling and let it be okay. When people get mad at their spouse, they're not accepting what happened. They are hanging on to their negative emotions because they aren't in acceptance of the situation. Whatever your spouse said or did, it happened. There isn't anything you can do about it but to accept what occurred and discover an answer to fixing the issue.
If you frequently allow negative feelings to fester within you, you are resisting and doing your best to prevent what happened. And guess what, you can't control the past. The next time you are upset at your partner for something that they have done, tell them how you're feeling (using "I" statements so you don't evoke a fight). You're not being a doormat, you are just not letting those negative feeling get the best of you. This will help you focus on the good parts in your relationship.
If you do not know whether you're in a relationship rut, here are a few signs that you and your partner may be stuck.
-You and your partner hardly connect on a deep and emotional level. -You and your other half have a routine that "works" for the both of you but unfortunately, you're getting bored with each other. -You and your spouse seldom laugh and play together. -You feel unhappy in your marriage -You and your spouse have lost that "spark and attraction"
If any of the above fits the description of your relationship, than you and your other half are stuck in a relationship rut. If you desire to nourish and treat your relationship from the core, than you have to take a deeper look at why the spark has fizzled out.
Your relationship problem is similar to having a blemish on your face. Here is how you can treat the root of the pimple instead of covering it up with makeup or concealer to give the appearance of healthful and clean skin.
Being a "Yes" to What Life Throws At You
Most couples who don't do, allows what happens to be alright. When you resist a situation or a feeling, you inevitably create more suffering for yourself.
This doesn't mean that you can't feel disappointed or upset, instead try to be accepting of your emotions. You should accept your companion as well. Accept how they feel and what they do. When your man or spouse doesn't give you the affection you want, don't fight it. Let yourself feel whatever emotion you are feeling and let it be okay. When people get mad at their spouse, they're not accepting what happened. They are hanging on to their negative emotions because they aren't in acceptance of the situation. Whatever your spouse said or did, it happened. There isn't anything you can do about it but to accept what occurred and discover an answer to fixing the issue.
If you frequently allow negative feelings to fester within you, you are resisting and doing your best to prevent what happened. And guess what, you can't control the past. The next time you are upset at your partner for something that they have done, tell them how you're feeling (using "I" statements so you don't evoke a fight). You're not being a doormat, you are just not letting those negative feeling get the best of you. This will help you focus on the good parts in your relationship.
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