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Saturday, October 8, 2011

3 You Are Setting Your Marriage Up For Failure

By Sarah Scott


Your relationship with your other half should be cultivated each day. You and your spouse must do all that you can to keep the love between you both alive. Make sure you avoid doing these things below if you'd like a blissful, flourishing, satisfying and loving marriage.

1. Overcommitment to Curricular Activities and Stress

Although it's possible (many busy folks can still have a flourishing marriage) but extensive and nerve-wrangling activities outside your marriage can worsen your relationship with your spouse. Young couples, particularly, have a complicated time balancing school, children, starting a business, renovating their home, and work in their relationship. Many marriages fall to pieces when both couples are too busy to spend some time together and cultivate their relationship. This doesn't mean you shouldn't do things outside your marriage. Just be sure to find a good balance between the activities in your life outside your marriage and time with your partner.

Can you think what life would look like for a husband who spends more time at work than he does with his wife? If he doesn't cultivate the bond he has with his other half on a daily basis, his wife is more likely to build resentment and loneliness (particularly if he is too tired to connect when he gets home). It's vital to take time out of your day to deepen your relationship on a rewarding level with your other half.

2. Are Your Satisfying Your Spouse's Desires?

Are you a giver or taker? If a relationship is composed of two takers, their relationship is going to suffer. Selfishness has no place in a marriage. Be conscious of your spouse's wants as well as they ought to be aware with yours. A marriage where both couples highest desires are met will overcome any adversity that dares to threaten their relationship. On the other hand, 2 givers in a relationship are prepared to have a successful and thriving relationship. Most marriages that fail are generally due to one (if not both) spouse is not meeting their spouse's needs. Think about, do you believe a couple who fulfills each other's emotional and physical desires have many issues in their relationship?

3. Do You Have Unachievable Expectations

Many couples go into a marriage with a certain expectation that only sets up their partner to fail. Women are culprits when it comes to this. Many women have high expectations of their partner. The majority of these high expectations are from what they have learned through the media. These ladies have predetermined romantic ideas of what their marriage should be. Some husbands do this too. Instead they have expectations of a domesticated spouse who will do all the cooking, cleaning and household chores in the house. Make sure your expectations are practical. Your not living in a fantasy world where your life is a movie. You are only setting yourself up for major unhappiness if you don't keep your expectations on a realistic level.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage?I know how hard it can be to try and make your partner understand just how special your love is, but if you would like to truly make your marriage sing again, you'll need to learn strategies that works amazingly well. Check out more at Relationship Advice




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