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Monday, October 24, 2011

Take Action Now and Stop Your Marriage From Ending

By Sarah Scott


Having said that, it's possible to keep your marriage alive even when you've lost all hope. At one time, your partner is going to have to join you in saving your relationship. The question is..."how are you able to make your spouse want to keep your marriage going?" Take a look at the following tips below to keep your marriage going, whether or not you're the only one who's committed to fixing it.

Keep these 2 things in mind:

1) You're the only one in the marriage that can change yourself. You can't change anyone even if that person is your partner.

2) Start making changes in your life, your partner can take the initiative to change also. This is because when you change, your relationship dynamic can change as well. This could push your other half to adjust as well.

If you do these changes thoroughly and wisely, it can evoke your partner to do some positive change and you won't feel just like saving your relationship alone after all.

If there's any issues in your relationship of any type, then the best thing that you can do is ask yourself on how you made a contribution to it. The issues in a committed relationship are seldom due to one individual. One good example is when your other half is treating you badly then you have to ask why it is occurring. Maybe your other half is actually is a jerk but if this has been occuring for a while then it is usually because you are allowing it. You want to be responsible as well to why your marriage has soured.

One quote from Dr.. Phil, who has helped many individuals has said, "We teach people how to treat us" This is a forceful truth. If you're saving your marriage alone then you need to ask yourself some things on why your partner is reacting to you in this certain ways.

If you should happen to feel like you don't deserve respect then people aren't going to give you respect. Somewhere along the path, our point of view of our own self worth gets bent. And we perceive what we get is what we deserve. That is not true.

Your partner is accountable for the actions being made. The one thing you are responsible of is your own reaction and your own attitude. If you want to keep your marriage alive, then you want to make the correct changes in your own reaction or your own perspective. If you're doing a similar thing with no results, then you know you are approaching it the wrong way. It's time that you do something different.

Do you know that you've got the power to modify your marriage more than you realize? When you change yourself, your attitude, behavior and reaction in your relationship, then you will see that it can change your marriage as well. All successful marriages consist of people who feel successful themselves as an individual person.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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