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Sunday, October 30, 2011

Find Out If the Feelings You are Experiencing Is Just Part of a Phase in Your Relationship

By Sarah Scott


In long term relationships and marriages, a growing distance between each couples is a common thing. It can be very heartbreaking to think your relationship is losing it's spark and to be continually doubting whether you and your spouse belong together is not easy.

In a start of a relationship, everything is fresh and exciting. This is called the "Honeymoon" phase and it can last between a couple of months to 2-3 years (it varies with each couple.) This phase is awfully exciting, passionate and romantically happy. Finally after being together for quite a while, you and your partner will start to see details about one another that you may not have seen in the beginning of the relationship. This is a phase when your relationship becomes deeper on a rather more intimate level.

At this point, you and your spouse might or might not be living together but when you both share private space, that is when you start to see certain habits you have not noticed before and could have conflicts that will shatter your faith in your relationship. Also at this point you both start to make stage-changing choices together like buying a car, house. Sharing bank accounts or getting married.

Here is where many women or men begin to question their relationship. At about that point, your relationship is a stark contrast to the thrilling and fresh honeymoon phase. You know you love your other half, but you wonder why your relationship is not as easy as it used to be. That's because you each are going through a different phase in your relationship which will require effort and work to cultivate your love.

This is where you and your spouse are going to find a good way to address conflicts and strengthen your relationship. At this point, your relationship may get a little more hard to keep together. You and your other half fight a bit more and your relationship may go through a turbulence of mix feelings. This is when you wonder whether you and your spouse should be together.

This is a hard stage because it is so different to relationship bliss that you had at the beginning stages of your relationship. This is when many marriages fail. Unless you can find a healthier way to coping with conflicts and stressful circumstances. Couples who make it through this stage comes out stronger than ever before. They have developed abilities to better communicate, compromise and resolve conflicts.

What you are feeling is extremely normal and it does not mean you've fallen out of love with your spouse and that your marriage is headed straight for trouble. It just means that you and your partner are going through a certain phase that may give your relationship a chance to grow and reach it's actual potential.




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