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Saturday, October 29, 2011

My Boyfriend Wants a Break- What Do I Need to Do

By Sarah Scott


Your happiest days were when you were in the arms of the man you love the most. He's just the best thing you’ve ever had and you two wish to spend the rest of your lives together. But one day, this magnificent life is devastated when he tells you he requires time off from the relationship. At the moment you're thinking, ‘My boyfriend wants a break, but I don't want to let him go! What do I do now?

At any rate, giving him a break is not all about letting him go forever. Though somewhat similar in wording, ‘a break’ and ‘break up’ are not the same as giving him a break is not permanent. Guys have the tendency to demand more time for themselves and to be by themselves. Though seldom, it also happens to girls. If you're bothered by the thoughts, ‘My boyfriend wants a break, what did I do to make him want time off?’, just relax as at times it may not even be about you.

When guys have several problems in life, they wanna take a break at times.

As you two can solve them together, you may wonder why he'd want to do it alone. Now and again, he feels like it's better if he tackles the problems alone and not involve you. Maybe, he doesn't wanna bother you or he thinks he'll solve it faster alone. Don't take it personally, as this is the problem-solving mindset of most guys. The question ‘What happens if my boyfriend wants a break every time he has a problem?’ is a genuine concern and something you must talk to him about. But you must discuss it after he comes back from his break, and not at this point when he has numerous things on his mind.

Refrain from wondering ‘my boyfriend wants a break, should I let him?’, because the answer is obviously yes. Moreover, this won't be the last time he'll say it so you should get accustomed to these things if you two wanna be together for a long, long time. He will take a break occasionally, and the only thing you can do is to respect it. If he's angry or troubled, he might just take it out on you if he doesn't take time off so it's better this way.

Hence, what must you do if your situation is like this: ‘My boyfriend wants a break and it's because of something I did’. You can use this to your advantage, too, although you may worry that your boyfriend will find out he's better off without you during this time off. Spend this time off to reflect on your relationship and mull over your contributions to his need for a break. Have you been overprotective? Do you ask excessive time from him? If he wants a time off since you're suffocating too much, backing off a little will decrease his needs for breaks later on.

Your happiest days were when you were in the arms of the man you love the most. He's just the best thing you’ve ever had and you two wish to spend the rest of your lives together. But one day, this magnificent life is devastated when he tells you he requires time off from the relationship. At the moment you're thinking, ‘My boyfriend wants a break, but I don't want to let him go! What do I do now?

At any rate, giving him a break is not all about letting him go forever. Though somewhat similar in wording, ‘a break’ and ‘break up’ are not the same as giving him a break is not permanent. Guys have the tendency to demand more time for themselves and to be by themselves. Though seldom, it also happens to girls. If you're troubled by the thoughts, ‘My boyfriend wants a break, what did I do to make him want time off?’, just calm down because it may not even be about you at times.

When guys have several problems in life, they wanna take a break at times.

You two can tackle them together so you may wonder why he'd wanna face them by himself. There are times when he feels like it's better if he deals with the problems without involving you. He possibly doesn't wanna bother you or he thinks he'll solve it faster by himself. You shouldn't take it personally because this is the problem-solving mindset of most guys. The question ‘What happens if my boyfriend wants a break every time he has a problem?’ is a real concern and something you need to discuss with him. Nevertheless, avoid discussing it at this point when several things are on his mind; instead, do it after he comes back from his break.

Refrain from wondering ‘my boyfriend wants a break, should I let him?’, because the answer is obviously yes. Moreover, this won't be the last time he'll say it so you should get accustomed to these things if you two wanna be together for a long, long time. He will take a break occasionally, and the only thing you can do is to respect it. If he's angry or troubled, he might just take it out on you if he doesn't take time off so it's better this way.

Hence, what must you do if your situation is like this: ‘My boyfriend wants a break and it's because of something I did’. You can use this to your advantage, too, although you may worry that your boyfriend will find out he's better off without you during this time off.

Spend this time off to reflect on your relationship and mull over your contributions to his need for a break. Have you been overprotective? Do you ask excessive time from him? If he wants a time off since you're suffocating too much, backing off a little will decrease his needs for breaks later on.




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